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Passivity & Control

May 20, 2018 Speaker: Mark Bjorlo Series: Once Upon a Marriage

Topic: Marriage Scripture: 1 Kings 21:1–21:19

Talking through the message during the week helps you turn what God is saying to you into action steps. These talking points, questions, and scriptures are designed to help you take the next step. With your Bible or YouVersion, read 1 Kings 21:1-29.

This passage tells the story of how Jezebel and her husband Ahab had Naboth killed so they could take his vineyard. The type of unhealthy marriage that Ahab and Jezebel had in this passage serves as an example of a husband who is passive and a wife that is controlling. •

  1. What types of attitudes or circumstances can cause us to become passive not just in our relationships with others, but in our relationship with God as well?
  2. How have you seen passivity weaken a relationship? What types of experiences have you had with passivivity?
  3. Ahab’s and Jezebel’s character flaws were a reflection of their own insecurities. How have you seen your own insecurities negatively affect your relationships?
  4. Jezebel controlled Ahab by belittling him with her words. What kinds of words would help you feel more able to maintain a healthy relationship? How can you strive to speak positively in your own relationships?
  5. What types of controlling behaviors have you seen damage your relationships or the relationships or others? If this is something you struggle with, what might be the source of your controlling tendencies?
  6. How can we be effective leaders in our lives and in our relationships without being overbearing or controlling?
  7. Describe a time when God held you accountable for a sin that you committed. What did you learn from this situation?
  8. What changes do you need to make that will allow you to step into the role that God created you to fill as a man or a woman?

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